14.
How do Muslims treat parents and the elderly?
In the Islamic world there are no old people's homes.
The strain of caring for one's parents in this most
difficult time of their lives is considered an honor
and blessing, and an opportunity for great spiritual
growth. God asks that we not only pray for our parents,
but act with limitless compassion, remembering that
when we were helpless children they preferred us
to themselves. Mothers are particularly honored:
the Prophet taught that 'Paradise lies at the feet
of mothers'. When they reach old age, Muslim parents
are treated mercifully, with the same kindness and
selflessness.
In Islam, serving one's parents
is a duty second only to prayer, and it is their
right to expect it. It is considered despicable
to express any irritation when, through no fault
of their own, the old become difficult.
The Qur'an says: Your Lord has commanded
that you worship none but Him, and be kind to parents.
If either or both of them reach old age with you,
do not say 'uff to them or chide them, but speak
to them in terms of honor and kindness. Treat them
with humility, and say, 'My Lord! Have mercy on
them, for they did care for me when I was little'.
(17:23-4)